...to a Meleva Malka in the 'J's house'.

When: IY"H next Motzai Shabbos, November 10th and Rosh Chodesh Kisleiv!

Where: Our place, in Far Rockaway (if we can all fit). People that need our exact address will get it via PM.

Time: @ 7:30 until ?? (Probably between 10 and 11).

There will be a buffet milchig meal which will hopefully give us the max amount of space we can get. If anyone would like to contribute - completley NO obligation - PM me and I will let you know what you can do.

We'd like there to be some sort of short program - we have a little bit of entertainment to share with you, and if anyone else can help come up with any other ideas (a Hashkafah game, d'var Torah, etc), please let us know.

It's imperitive that whoever is interested in coming RSVPs beforehand, sooner rather than later, but at the latest by the beginning of next week. So that we can figure out space and seats and ammounts of food to prepare.

We will try to pick up anyone from the LIRR or A train, as long as it's not smack in the middle of the party.
Far Rockaway LIRR schedule

Please mention if you need a ride or can give a ride from Brooklyn, Queens or Manhattan (or NJ or Baltimore.... )

Also, please let us know if you have any special diet needs and we will try to accomodate.

LOOKING FORWARD TO SEEING YOU ALL!

I smell vacation slide-shows...

Do I take the lack of responses to be a lack of interest, an uncertainty if people will be available yet, a reluctanace to committing just yet, an 'I didn't see this post yet', or a 'well it's in 10+ days, so what's the point of responding just yet'?

Being in the wrong country

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I should be able to make it.

I would like to contribute something, but please don't ask me to cook
Maybe we can set up an H-meet fund, or something for such purposes. After all, every cult must have a budget.

And a word of advice: it's the social experience - not the food - that matters. Please, don't go all out on making this. Because if you do, it will un-motivate you and any other wannabe's to make such things in the future.

Trying to figure out the best way to disguise a robot as a human being.

It's so sweet of you two to set this up and host it!

(This thread is on my bookmarks bar so that I remember to reply as soon as I can give a more definite answer.)

Good points .

Yeah, it's going to be simple, especiallly if people can contribute a few dollars. I'm thinking of making a pasta dish and salad and buying bagels with trimmings and drinks. That should be enough to eat and not all that much work on my part.

I'll bump this thread again this Motzai Shabbos or Sunday, IYH, so try to figure out your schedules before then

So Monsey people aren't invited?

Maybe a few people will volunteer to bring pizzas also, or sealed nosh (chips, whatever)...


I'll RSVP if I can find a sitter.

Ill babysit

They are.


You can bring him. Sorry i forgot to include well-behaved babies in the invite, I thought it was understood .

my babysitter is willing to stay till late, so i'll be able to come, if nothing unpredictable happens and there is a ride. Motcha, does your offer still stand?

SHuli, i would suggest bringing your son to me then, for my babysitter to watch, but i don't think it makes sense (unless you want to sleep over by me that night)

what did we decide - do we get to make something to bring or give the money?

People have hosted meets at their own homes in the past and didn't ask for monetary contributions. If someone wants to host a party, they shouldn't expect to be reimbursed. If people offer to bring food, that's one thing, but people shouldn't feel like they have to contribute.

Ooooooooh not only a meet but a SLUMBER PARTY!!!
I'll charge my flashlight...

they dont' have to, but for those who want to but can't cook or cooking is not a good idea because of kashrus?



bonus - pillow fights

It's not nice to tease me.



They were included in the other thread, it's just a bit late for him to be out is all.



Thanks for the offer, but doesn't make a lot of sense. And I think we decided people shouldn't bring homemade things, because of kashrus concerns.



It was certainly nice of those people to do it, but I do think that having people pitch in a few dollars is really helpful. I don't think it should be obligatory unless agreed upon beforehand (as in "okay guys, we're going to be ordering pizza. can we all agree to bring $4 each to cover the costs of pie and soda?") and I think in this case it's understood that there's no cover charge; a few people just suggested that some donations or other help may be nice.



I'm pretty sure she wasn't suggesting something co-ed...




ETA: err, and I think i demanded that Int bring pizza to the last meet at my house, so I guess I shouldn't talk...

I've actually found that some people are much happier contributing money than dealing with cooking. In this case, noone is obligated to do or contribute anything, but since some people offered, I'll repeat what I wrote in the invite:

"If anyone would like to contribute - completley NO obligation - PM me and I will let you know what you can do."

You're just worried that I'll thrash you in the pillow fight (or the real one that you promised me)...
Besides you already know that I don't sleep at NIGHT...

Yeah, that's what it is...



Err, I don't think people sleep during co-ed slumber parties...

it's pretty clear, given the times of your posting on h.com

Thanks for the invite. I'll be in touch.

We did at all the one's I've been to (eventually anyway)... Pillow fighting really wipes you out, as does laughing at fart jokes.....

Is anyone riding in from Manhattan? I could travel to Wash. Heights for a ride.

I'll be there anyway. LTL, PMing you.

It's just very tacky. You don't go to people for a meal and then offer to chip in for the price of food.

I was directing my comment to YBS who felt (for some reason) that this would be a very difficult event for you to prepare and that money should be given to lessen the burden.

I don't see the problem... We do it all the time when we make Shabbosim for the "chevra"... Or BBQs...
That way only one person has to go shopping and people don't bring the wrong things, or have too much of something and not enough of the other, there is no problem with heksherim etc...

Hmm...you want to invite everyone, then? Or fund the entire thing? Sounds cool.

Why would I pay for an event that I'm not hosting? If I was hosting an event I wouldn't tell people to chip in (which I'm not saying that LTL is doing) and I wouldn't ask anyone to bring anything unless they specifically asked.

"The Js"-
this is so kind & sweet of you guys!
I'll try and see if I can make it!

I'm assuming that you're talking about a bunch of single guys that jointly decide to have a shabbos meal or bbq. Not a married couple that invites guests over and then decides to charge them for food. If a person can't handle a lot of guests, then they shouldn't invite them to begin with.

(And again, I'm not saying that this is what LTL is doing).

They specifically asked.
LTL is nice enough to host, and people asked collectively how they can contribute.
As for why you would pay for an event that you're not hosting, I was being sorta cynical. It's nice to put down the "contribution" factor if you're not the one hosting the event. You do things your way, but not everyone is made of the same money.
Sorry..it wasn't nice of me.

I've hosted several h.com events. . . I wasn't putting down her asking for food contributions, it was YBS' suggestion that people give money. That's extremely tacky.

I don't think LTL is doing anything wrong, I think it's a great idea to have a melava malke, I was only responding to YBS about the $$$ factor.

No when I used to go with my parents to "parties" at other people's houses, it was either "everyone brings something" or they chip in...

There's a difference between 2 guests for Shabbos and a party of 30...

i go to yeshiva in far rockaway

I'm excited that the PMs and posts have started to come in . Looksl like this will be a decent meet which we will just be able to fit into our home . Menachem, if you live nearby, you should definitely stop in.

In defense to BroadwayFreak, she has hosted (at least one) H.com Shabbos meal for quite a number of people, so she does have the right to weigh in on this. I wouldn't have even thought of asking for any food or $$ at all, but when someone (I think jokingly) mentioned hosting a big party is not a good way to save $$, I (jokingly) suggested that people should pay. But other people really did seem interested in contributing, and I would probably feel similarly if I was a guest, so I threw out the idea if people did want to contribute, they should let me know.

I've made things like Sheva Brachos in the past, with a similar suggestion; if anyone is interested in helping out financially or with a dish, they should let me know. Some were happy to bring food, others happy to contribute money, and some wished to do neither and that was fine too. Similarly, I've hosted Shabbos for close to 10 girls, and while I wouldn't have asked anyone to bring anything, I was happy to let one person bring challah, someone else to bring a side dish, etc. I think the guests felt more involved and noone had any problems contributing.

I think pot luck would be fun; but truthfully it's not the smartest for this sort of venue because 1) Kashrus standards vary, 2) I'm assuming some people are traveling by public transporation and will be hard to transport, and 3) there's not a big need for a whole lot of food.

I actually think DH (who I don't even think saw this thread yet) would be quite unhappy that I'm actually letting anyone even entertain the notion of helping us out, foodwise or financially. But I get why people do want to contribute and won't turn anyone down.

shux


I think, that everyone would prefer the direct opposite.


That depends on your perspective. A shabbos meal invite can be one thing, but when a bunch of people get together to party, it may be perceived differently.

OK, ride available from Kew Gardens Hills. I know some of you live there, just let me know if you could use the ride .

Oh my gosh! Rub it in.

(I'm just kidding. And I'm glad you get the S in Gardens right.)

LTL, this is really nice and sounds like it's gonna be lots of fun.


How about a *cuddle* party?!

Ride available from Flatbush as well. PM me (or Motcha) if you want in.

It sounds very nice, but no, thank you. I have a wedding and anyway, I never look for things to do on Motzei Shabbos!

RH, have you ever attended a meet?

(OT - LTL, there is a typo in the thread's title)

RH - when is the wedding - on sunday? but you have all the time to rest on shabbos

No, she spelled "invited" correctly...

That entirely depends on who I will be forced to "cuddle" with....

I'm tired Motzei Shabbos. If I can, I go on the exercise bike for 1/2 hour, after i clean up from Shabbos.

I don't "rest all day". I am up around 8ish, tidy the kitchen and table, get to shul before the davening to put the soda in the fridge and freezer, pack the paper goods, and make sure the siddurim and chumashim are in order. Then I do all the davening.

After shul, I shlep the tables to their place, bring out the food and serve the kiddush, then I come home and serve the seudah to my family. I sleep in the afternoon, but come evening, yes, I'm tired !

No, LTL, I haven't made it to a meet yet. (I've been to a couple of Imamother meets, though.) Latlely I've been napping on Sundays, too - I'm quite a big sleeper ! I'm seeing an endocrinologist around Thanksgiving to discuss my "energy levels" - or lack thereof.

bump?

Thanks, Elana. I got a nice amount of replies, including a couple of old H.commers who haven't been so active of late, I hope. I believe there are still a couple of spots left from a car ride from Brooklyn and Kew Garden Hills. Please do PM me or post here if you are interested in joining the fun.

YBS you don't have to worry, I'm going to be in new jersey this shabbat.

But that doesn't mean i wont have any spies walking around