QUOTE(Kalashnikover_Rebbe @ Dec 31 2007, 06:50 PM)

But WHY can't you invite them? Because it is assur to cook for them. So it doesn't seem so far fetched to me that someone would be matir inviting them if the issur is avoided.
Big poskim have come up with these solutions, not some feel good new age politically correct Open Orthodox people with an agenda.
Do you also decry the fact that people perform Chalitza instead of Yibum, sell their chometz, pruzbol, heter iska, count non religious Jews in a minyan, don't throw idolaters in pits??
chalitza, pruzbol, heter iska - those are all chazaldik, so I have no problem with them. My point is to decry a kuntz to get around an issur de-rabbanan. As for selling chametz, I have had what to say about that [when the agenda suited me] as an example of halachah changing [not selling chametz per se, but specifically keeping it in the house, which is an Acharonic innovation from around the time of the Ba'ch because of the liquor industry]. And at least no throwing idolators in pits is sourced in Rishonim.
I suppose counting non-religious Jews in a minyan is the best example.
There are solutions and there are solutions. Innovating a "darchei shalom" excuse out of thin air is, to all appearances, a kuntz, to get out of an issur de-rabbanan. So is cooking before YT - that was never a solution among Rishonim so it would appear the issur would stand even if one were to cook before YT.
Look, I don't really have a problem with trying to make things a little easier given the realities today of, for example, secular relatives, which we all have. But let's call a spade a spade and admit it's a kuntz to get around an issur de-rabbanan.