So – my coworker’s sister is moving. I’m friendly with the family¸ the only non-Satmar person allotted such a privilege, and she said something strange to me the other day.
She’s moving into a big apt – remember my jealousy thread – and asked me when I moved, and I said, one of the times I moved, I takeh moved in the late, hot summer, and was due to have a baby any time, with a non-yet two year old.
I guess she wanted to “top that” saying that SHE was moving with 5 kids under 6 yrs old, or some such, so I should properly pity her or some such, I have no idea ….I work full time in a different neighborhood and she has oodles of family, I don’t think she was asking me for a helping hand…..
It reminded me of the time that another coworker, when I worked in Brooklyn non-profit, mentioned that her mom (she’s one of 11 kids, bli ayin horah) has a Pesach kitchen, and I was like, oooh, I would like that too!
Whereupon she sternly informed me that I did not NEED a Pesach kitchen, that I “only” had two kids and that her mom raised 11 kids.
So, I’m thinking……. how are these women judging me? Okay they have busy lives, but I have a busy life too….
How are they judge and jury as to what people should have, and who gets what? We don’t live in communism – last I checked, anyway …..
Thought?
Full Version: Comparing "pekel Tsoris"
And I thought my friends were mental.
To quote again what I already QFT:
http://www.hashkafah.com/index.php?s=&...st&p=954579
To quote again what I already QFT:
http://www.hashkafah.com/index.php?s=&...st&p=954579
QUOTE(Bitter @ Dec 31 2007, 01:02 PM) 
I don't know why everybody is hating on this post. I agree that there is an almost constant pressure in right wing orthodoxy to be constantly overstressed. If you can be relaxed at all when your baby sleeps through the night, it's time to have another one. If you by some chance don't, you better open a g'mach of some sort. To many people I know, the tiniest bit of self indulgence needs to be explained away or laden with guilt.
People are going to do this, Red Hare. No way to escape it. For some people, everything is a competition. It's not only about who has it harder. It's about who is richer, cuter, smarter, skinnier, prettier, luckier....
Red Hare, please be aware that they specifically have an issue. It's not a typical thing to do. I guess they think they need to make you aware (as an 'outsider' in their eyes) of the 'struggles' or the martyrdom they live with. They want to feel one up and this can happen to anyone across the board. I know only one person that does this, as mentioned in the other thread. It's a despisable trait. It's not even about comparing tzaros because they usually compare everything, including whose dress has more sequins, or whose shoe has a higher heel (and 'OMG, it's SO hard to walk', has to be thrown in as well 
).
And on the subject of comparing (real) tzaros, it's the silliest thing one can do.
). And on the subject of comparing (real) tzaros, it's the silliest thing one can do.
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