Assuming you have two beds, what sizes are they? If they're large, do you find it unnecessary and crowded? If they're small, do you want larger ones?

I'm in the process of moving (not just yet) and I'm looking to up our bed size from 48" to 54". But that will mean getting new sets of linen...

Is it worth it?

we have two twin beds but I would love to get bigger beds either doubles or queen. I thinkit's worth it to get bigger beds, more comfy

A million times yes.

I second that.

Of course it is worth it.

Definitely. Of course if you're not married a twin is perfectly fine.

it is?

It may be partly an age thing. I'm perfectly happy on my twin. It leaves more space for other things in my room.

I am probably the fattest person here and I have no problem with a twin bed...
I think my bed is even smaller than twin, but I got it for free courtesy of the IDF.....

How many people do you have sharing the bed at once?

You don't have to get new linen..you can just get bigger sheets.

Do you really want to know?

Seriously though, it's kind of fun to have more space even when there are only two people.

Would you say the same thing if your spouse is as big as you...?

Only two??? That's plenty in my book....

Same here.

We have 2 full size beds and we love it, We push 'em together and we get one huge jumping pad

In the states we also have two full size beds.....It really helps because DD still sleeps in bed with us.

For us its more important that the bedroom is large...so we made the dining room into our bedroom.

We used to have twin beds but once they were no longer needed (niddah wise) I got one big bed. In our house in Israel we haven't yet upgraded but we have two big twins, 3'6 wide instead of 3'.

How long are you going to let that last?

As long as it takes for us to get bored.....So far we love every minute she spends with it.
When she starts bringing home politicians, druggies, yeshiva bachurim and yuppies....we will obviously have to rearrange our sleeping arrangements.
I dont wanna get caught in bed with a politician chas veshalom.

I find it funny that you think this question is entirely appropriate and asking someone how their shower went is scandalous .

We have two full size beds and they are great. Whenever we sleep anywhere else (parents, in-laws) we are reminded just how nice and big and comfy our beds are. I definitely recommend getting the bigger beds.

I was about to say the same thing.

I disagree.

Having moved from rented apt to rented apt for the past 20 years, then finally buying a small apt, i could not imagine taking up so much of the bedroom with just beds. Besides the fact that the linens cost more to buy & store, take up more room in the washing machine, and you get less choice with them, I don't think that it should be such a focus.

I believe it's brought down in the name of the Alte Rebbe that ppl should have two twin size beds.

I know that a post menopausal friend asked the rov about getting just one big Queen sized bed and he said NO.

There were standard bed sizes (let alone "twin") 200 years ago? I find that surprising.

i don't understand why a rav needs to be consulted when they're buying furniture.

Spot and Artscroll, that’s what they teach us. Honestly.

I can understand the position that one should have 2 separate beds, but why DAVKA twin sized??? Is a full or queen sized bed gluttony???

Okay. Thanks.

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Yes, K Rebbie. That the focus of your relationship is not – you know.

Oh, that's true! OK, that makes things simpler.




I hear your point, but I think there is a difference. Showering is always naked and stuff so it's inappropriate, and beds are for sleeping, not just what you're thinking of...

My understanding is that the beds should be similar in size, and there should be two of them, not that the Alter Rebbe taught they should be davka twin sized.

Ahh. I suppose it is taught, in contemporary terms, by referencing two twins.

What occurs in the bed 'occasionally' is more taboo than what occurs in the shower regularly.

To go a step further, maybe you shouldn't let guests take showers at your house because then they are getting naked in a place that you've been naked.

"naked and stuff" - what kind of other stuff is there?

And anything larger than a twin bed sends the wrong message???
Some people flop around when they sleep or hang off the bed and a larger bed would be more comfortable...

I'll bet what he ACTUALLY said was that people should have twin beds - i.e. two identical beds.

Why?

Relax. You know what I mean, so why bother picking on my words?

Oh I doubt any daughter of yours will be allowed anywhere near a politician.


The beds do not have to be similar in size. My parents' set up is one twin, one full.

That's our set-up too as sleeping in one bed isn't always what we want, but why on earth shouldn't post menopausal couples not have one bed if they choose to?

Are your parents Chabad?

Post menapausal women can spot too.

Nope.

Not all Chabad go by the Alte Rebbe.

This was my understanding also. This is to prevent one person feeling slighted and resenting the mitzvah. According to Chabad, the bed should also not be a temporary bed, like a sofa bed or a futon unless you're in a situation of dire need.

Not if they've had a hysterectomy--becoming niddah is physically impossible.

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