I saw the following article on this very topic just last week.
http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/02/14/ep.finding.dr.right/Five ways to find Dr. RightBy Elizabeth Cohen
CNN
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Breaking up, finding a new partner, hoping for the perfect match: Sound a lot like relationships? That's not a coincidence. Both involve trust, vulnerability, and seeing your most private body parts. "I consider the doctor-patient relationship to be as intimate as a life partnership," says Dr. Vicki Rackner, a professional patient advocate. "There are lots of nice people out there, but you would not want to marry most of them."
Here from Amy, Rackner, and others is advice about how to find Dr. Right.
1. Date before you get married"Just as you would 'do' coffee on a first date instead of a weekend together, so, too, go to the first appointment with a problem of a limited scope, like a mole or a thyroid check," Rackner advises.
You can also go with no problem at all -- make an appointment to just chat with the doctor to get a feel whether you like him or her. Be aware, though, that as with dating, first impressions might be a bit rosy. " 'Meet the doctor' visits are nice, but everybody's on their best behavior, and there's no stress," says Dr. Michael Victoroff, another patient advocate.
For a list of questions to ask on the first date, click here.
2. Check them out on the InternetIf you Google a guy or gal you've started to date, Google a prospective new doctor, too. And why not go to MySpace and FaceBook -- you never know what you'll find.
Even more important, there are loads of Web sites that keep objective information on doctors (sadly, these sites don't exist for dating!). Check on training and board certification at the American Medical Association. Find out if they're board certified in a particular specialty by clicking here. Several Web sites (such as RateMDs.com and HealthGrades.com) also have doctor ratings -- make sure you find out what criteria they use.
3. Check out the familyRemember, you're not just marrying the doctor. You're marrying the whole family, which for a doctor means the office staff. They're way more important than you might think. When you're feeling desperately ill, you're at their mercy to squeeze you into a packed schedule. "A great doctor who has a grouchy receptionist, rude nurse, careless assistant and obnoxious partner is going to frustrate you," Victoroff says.
4. Ask your friends to fix you up.But choose your friends carefully. If you're a Type A person who likes to ask lots of questions, asking your meek friend for a recommendation might end up in a mismatch. Choose someone who thinks more the way you do.
5. Go with your gutThis is perhaps the most important. It's perfectly OK to reject doctors simply because there's something about them that makes you feel a bit ill at ease. "I would suggest that patients actually like their provider," says Dr. Michael Woods, a surgeon who founded a group called Civility Mutual to help improve communication between patients and health care providers. "Patients should, after their first visit, have a sense of trust."
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