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Spot
Do you get offended or annoyed if you have a certain degree or certificate and people don't use it properly? As in, if you're a doctor or rabbi, do you get offended when someone calls you Mrs. or Mr.?
How about if you're married and someone calls you Miss or Ms.?

Does it not bother you in normal conversation but in formal or business you make sure people use it (i.e., wedding invites or tuition bills)?
FYI
QUOTE (Spot @ Feb 26 2008, 03:15 PM) *
Do you get offended or annoyed if you have a certain degree or certificate and people don't use it properly? As in, if you're a doctor or rabbi, do you get offended when someone calls you Mrs. or Mr.?
How about if you're married and someone calls you Miss or Ms.?

Does it not bother you in normal conversation but in formal or business you make sure people use it (i.e., wedding invites or tuition bills)?

Nope. I actually prefer if people use my first name as I'm not an old lady.
politico
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Do you get offended or annoyed if you have a certain degree or certificate and people don't use it properly?

yes.

as i tell my students, i prefer to be called by my first name than by any title. once people are going to stand on ceremony anyway, they might as well get my title right. especially when they (read: one particularly obnoxious student) see it in my email signature and insist on calling me "mrs." anyway.
Kalashnikover_Rebbe
I don't particularly like when people call me "HaRav"...
myaccountname
QUOTE (Kalashnikover_Rebbe @ Feb 26 2008, 07:10 PM) *
I don't particularly like when people call me "HaRav"...

and i dont like to be called "Rabbi"
RebPropagandist
Sometimes I don't like RebP.
Belle
I don't like being called 'Mrs.' I was called that by every doctor, resident, and med student for a week straight, 20 times a day. By the time I left, I felt 72 years old.

I'd rather be called 'Ms.'
krumlikeapretzel
Since I got used to not using any titles when introducing myself in Japan (which is considered extremely rude), I never use a title of any sort when people ask who's calling on the phone or when I write something. This actually results in most people just calling me by my first name, which I like.

I still feel weird when people introduce themselves as "Dr. so-and-so" or "Mrs. so-and-so", and above all "Rabbi so-and-so."
Pinchas
When I taught I liked being called "Professor."
brianna
QUOTE (politico @ Feb 26 2008, 06:07 PM) *
as i tell my students, i prefer to be called by my first name than by any title. once people are going to stand on ceremony anyway, they might as well get my title right. especially when they (read: one particularly obnoxious student) see it in my email signature and insist on calling me "mrs." anyway.

I happen to hate "ma'am" which I have been called on the phone. Ms. works just fine.
Red Hare
I like to be called Sir.
Kalashnikover_Rebbe
QUOTE (brianna @ Feb 27 2008, 03:49 PM) *
I happen to hate "ma'am" which I have been called on the phone. Ms. works just fine.

On principle, I refuse to use the title Ms....
krumlikeapretzel
QUOTE (Red Hare @ Feb 27 2008, 08:56 AM) *
I like to be called Sir.
That is downright Hillarious.
Belle
QUOTE (brianna @ Feb 27 2008, 08:49 AM) *
I happen to hate "ma'am" which I have been called on the phone. Ms. works just fine.


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QUOTE (Red Hare @ Feb 27 2008, 09:56 AM) *
I like to be called Sir.


I'd be happy to call you that dunce.gif

QUOTE (Kalashnikover_Rebbe @ Feb 27 2008, 09:59 AM) *
On principle, I refuse to use the title Ms....


What principle is that?
Kalashnikover_Rebbe
QUOTE (Belle @ Feb 27 2008, 11:07 PM) *
What principle is that?

That it is feminist propaganda and using it furthers their attempt to destroy society (hey, you asked)....
I also in general refrain from calling people by hyphenated last names.....
Belle
QUOTE (Kalashnikover_Rebbe @ Feb 27 2008, 04:10 PM) *
I also in general refrain from calling people by hyphenated last names.....


So if someone introduces herself as Ms. Smith-Jones, what would you call her?
Kalashnikover_Rebbe
QUOTE (Belle @ Feb 27 2008, 11:15 PM) *
So if someone introduces herself as Ms. Smith-Jones, what would you call her?

I try not to associate with such people...
But it obviously depends on the situation. If it's someone I can't afford to insult, I won't.... And most of the time (especially if she's frum) I'll know if she's married or not so I will use the appropriate title and Jones. (and probably emphasize it so they get my point)...
brianna
QUOTE (Kalashnikover_Rebbe @ Feb 27 2008, 09:59 AM) *
On principle, I refuse to use the title Ms....

Why? God forbid you recognize a non-married woman as an adult in her own right...
Kalashnikover_Rebbe
QUOTE (brianna @ Feb 27 2008, 11:33 PM) *
Why? God forbid you recognize a non-married woman as an adult in her own right...

Miss and Mrs have been good enough for ages. I see no reason to change now......
brianna
QUOTE (Kalashnikover_Rebbe @ Feb 27 2008, 04:35 PM) *
Miss and Mrs have been good enough for ages. I see no reason to change now......

Here's why. For a long time, women were belongings of their father. This ownership was transfered over to their husband upon marriage. There are women who belong to neither in today's world. They are a class of women I like to call independent women. Their title is unmistakably Ms. Miss is for women too young to be married. Mrs. is for married women. I fall into neither category.
Kalashnikover_Rebbe
QUOTE (brianna @ Feb 27 2008, 11:38 PM) *
They are a class of women I like to call independent women. Their title is unmistakably Ms. Miss is for women too young to be married. Mrs. is for married women. I fall into neither category.

That's YOUR problem, not mine. I'm NOT calling you "Ms."
brianna
QUOTE (Kalashnikover_Rebbe @ Feb 27 2008, 04:40 PM) *
That's YOUR problem, not mine. I'm NOT calling you "Ms."

Queen or Goddess is fine as an alternative, should you prefer that. wink.gif
Kalashnikover_Rebbe
QUOTE (brianna @ Feb 27 2008, 11:41 PM) *
Queen or Goddess is fine as an alternative, should you prefer that. wink.gif

Whatever floats your boat, babe....
brianna
QUOTE (Kalashnikover_Rebbe @ Feb 27 2008, 04:58 PM) *
Whatever floats your boat, babe....

Now that is the kind of answer I like...hey wait a second - BABE?!!!
shaya_getzl
In some circles title Rabbi is applied liberally over the entire structural body of those circles, including areas which wouldn't earn even a "Mistah".

I heard that one of the reasons people from the British so called Kingdom travel to the US is that here they get to be called "Sir" and "Lady" without having to submit to an financial and hereditary audit. They find delight hearing "Sir, urination in public is a misdemeanor in the State of Missouri" and "Sheila here is our new cleaning lady". To think that they spawned this constituency is unfathomable. The word "English" should be divorced from England and its vassals.
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