Yehuda said to Yossef: והיה כראותו כי אין הנער ומת

I heard an interesting vort. (I'm not very good at repeating such things, so forgive me if it's not well explained.) I can't remember who says it, but when I do I'll post it bl"n.

Yehuda was describing how painful it would be for Yaakov not to see/be with his son. And therefore Yossef should have mercy and let him return home.

Why didn't Yehuda (also) say that it would be painful for Binyomin to be without his father?

The answer is, that the love of parents for a child, is much stronger than that of a child towards his parents. the reason for this is genetic. Odom HoRishon didn't have any parents, so he had no in-built love towards parents. But he did have children, and thus a love towards his own children. Therefore a parents love for a child is much greater.

mosheshmeal
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Yasher Koach!

ברעיא מהימנא, פרשת תצא: כברא דאשתדל בתר אבוי ואימיה, דרחים לון יתיר מגרמיה ונפשיה ורוחיה ונשמתיה כו׳

I heard a different spin on this one. That that's why the hardest Mitzva is Kibbud Horim. Because Adam Harishon didn't have parents. True or not? That's for you people to debate!

What's your opinion?

mosheshmeal
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So true. Most people recover, within the year, if not within months (weeks?), from the loss of a parent. No one ever fully recovers from the loss of a child. לא עלינו

Really?

Define "recover."

Able to lead a normal life.

I'll back out of this discussion, having thankfully experienced neither of the two.

I think you might not be fully right, though.

Ah, well that's a good question. I'm not so sure ti's the hardest Mitzva out there. At least not to everyone. It depends a lot on circumstances/relationships as well. But yah, it's pretty high on my 'hard mitzva' list.

I wouldn't say within weeks, months or even the year, but I think the natural way of the world is for a child to lose parents at one point in their life. Whereas a parent L"A losing a child is so unnatural. So against the nature of things.

That's a much better way of putting it.

I agree. Thanks.

Bump.

mosheshmeal
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Voos?

דאס

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